It Won’t go Away
I’ve been involved in the Lifestyle for a long time and one thing I know is that a fetish simply will not be denied. You can try your best to ignore it, push it down, tell yourself you’re over it. But you need to indulge your fetish. It must be fed. If you do it regularly and in a safe manner, the beast is tamed. Swat it away and it comes back like a roaring tiger, possibly pushing you to take risks you really don’t want to take.
Every time you put your fetish aside, it comes back stronger. That’s why it works best to come up with a plan. Figure out how you can indulge your fetish in a way that satisfies you, keeps you safe, and protects your privacy.
Denial Courts Danger
Ignoring your sexual fetish needs can even become dangerous. This is not an exaggeration. Here are some examples of what may happen:
- Financial distress
- A blowup or loss of your primary relationship
- Publish embarrassment
- Damage to, or loss, of career
- Losing respect for yourself and from others
- STD’s
Probing the Depths of Your Need
It’s important to know that your fetish is a part of who you are. It’s as much an aspect of you as your sexual orientation or personality. Just imagine the folly of trying to shift your sexual orientation by sheer force of will. It’s not possible.
This part of you needs to be recognized, valued and given attention. It makes sense to find a safe outlet for feeding your fetish. So how do you go about this safely? Let’s dive into that.
Indulge Safely
Doing this depends on your personal situation and how strong your fetish needs are. If you are single and live alone, you have a lot more options and can explore more freely. You are available to seek a lifestyle Mistress to be your Domme girlfriend, see a Pro Domme for sessions or call phone Mistresses as often as you wish.
But when you are married or have a serious love interest you have a lot more to lose. That’s probably one of the reasons you hesitate to indulge your fetish to begin with. In this type of situation, it’s important to be careful about how you explore your fetish needs. I consider it one of my roles as a Mistress to guide and advise you on that journey. My goal is to assist you in meeting your fetish desires while maintaining your primary relationship. Odds are, your relationship will even improve when your fetish is fed. I know how to help you enhance every part of your life through pursuing fetish satisfaction.
Consider These Options
Make it a goal to satisfy your fetish needs in the manner that is least invasive to your life. To be clear, I’m suggesting finding an option that doesn’t take up too much of your time, or finances and puts you at a minimal level of risk. The safest way to take care of your fetish is to do so in the least life-invasive manner. What I mean by that is that it is best to find an option that does not take too much time, money, and puts you at minimal risk.
For now, it may be enough for you to read stories online that dive into your fetish. Or maybe watching fetish videos while you masturbate will satisfy you. When your desires become stronger, it’s usually time to bump up to the next level. Call an experienced FemDom to discuss your fetish, or role play a specific fantasy that keeps rolling through your mind. This in a quite safe option as you don’t meet anyone in person and any reputable service, such as NiteFlirt, will protect your privacy. To be very sure you cover your tracks, use a disposable credit card.
A Step Beyond That
It’s possible that you may come to a point where you realize you have a deep need to be touched by someone within your fetish play. If you are at that place, you can get the touch factor met by visiting a professional Domme for a session. Once you find the right one for you, you can see her regularly or set something up when you feel your desire growing again. Some fetishes really require touch, such as bondage and pain play. If spending a lot of money leads to guilt or financial problems, seek a lifestyle Mistress instead.
Keep in mind that when you meet a Mistress in person, the stakes go way up for you. There are dangers such as being discovered, exposed publicly, leaving evidence. Know that if you are found out, the woman in your life will have more difficulty accepting that you met with someone else in person. She wouldn’t like phone sessions either, but it’s not as much of a deal breaker.
Be Honest With Yourself
You are the best judge of what your needs and limitations are. Try to meet them regularly and as safely as you can. It helps if you can avoid letting your fetish need build up until it blows like a volcano. That’s the point where many are more likely to take unnecessary risks.
Fetish Play on Phone
Wondering what kinds of fetishes can be satisfied via a phone session? Leave a comment with your question or email me. I’m happy to help you out. You will be pleasantly surprised at the heights of pleasure which can be achieved in a phone domination session. Activities such as spanking, slave/submissive training, chastity training, flogging, CBT, humiliation, CFNM and many others can really come to life with a talented Mistress.
Ask me anything here in comments. I’m here to answer your fetish questions.
